When I look in my son’s face, I can’t help but smile and wince. I listen to his laugh and tickle his stomach and then Cassandra cherish these moments. Soon it’s going to be kindergarten, elementary, riding bikes, building forts, treehouses, sport games, watching him get hit in football, cringing while watching him get hit in football, sleepovers, scary movies, high school, girls (yuck!), smelly clothes, rebellion, more girls, fights, driving, more girls, more fights, first job, first kiss, first crush, first time (double yuck!!), first heartbreak, first car, first everything! Then he turns 18 and by society’s standards, at 18, he’s an adult. Up until then, what will I teach him? What would I want him to know when he faces the world? What inner voice strength do I want to hold on? Here is a list of things I hope he will take away from us.
- Manners, manners, manners! Saying please and thank you. Saying excuse me after burping. Holding the door for people when they’re directly behind you. Manners. It’s almost like it’s a lost trait right now.
- To have an open mind. We will give him a base regarding people and things around the world but I want him to make up his own mind. If it’s different from us as his parents, that’s fine. I want him to feel like he can think outside of the norm and not being afraid of thinking or feeling that way.
- Different ways to deal with his emotions is a big way. When he gets a little bit older (he’s 16 months right now), I want to show him yoga and meditation. I want to teach ways to how to calm down in certain situations and how to face things logically.
- My son is biracial. I want him to appreciate both sides of him but don’t discount the great things he can learn from both separately. I want him to be proud of his German heritage as well as his African American heritage because both bring something to the table.
- I want him to really enjoy life and be in the moment. I don’t want him to worry about everything like I did. I was definitely a worrier as a kid and to this day, at the beautiful age of 35, I’m still working on it.
- Don’t believe everything you hear. He is going to be told so much about being a biracial male. The world is going to remind him all the time of what they think he is and I want him to remember who he really is.
- More than anything, I want him to be kind-hearted. I want him to be kind to other kids, specifically the ones that may seem different. I want him to be kind to the elderly, to family and to himself. I don’t want him to be 1000% trusting but just to have a kind heart and be that person that is willing to help when he can.
He’s 16 months now so I know this list will get even longer but it’s a start. What are some things that you hope to teach your child?